Yesterday was the biggest argument i ever had.
Breakfast
Didn't talk
Didn't inform him anything, merely talked
He stormed off
Don't accept his appology
Talking in the car, argument
Stopped at LRT, walked down from the car
Came back again
Ask, what do i Want ?
I argue and said...
Reached Puchong, cried badly in the car
I felt nothing coz "very Ba" and dissapointed
Then, went back to his house, talked over it and he cried again.
Ask me to give him another chance
No
Explain to me why?
Lie no 1. : Friends ask to play Mah jong, But not playing, wathing Tv with some of them.
Explain : Went there to join them though tired but at least nearer
Lie no 2. : Eating at 5pm, and movie and night, Actually, Movie at 5pm, eating at 8pm.
Explain: He doesn't know the real plan till they have reach
Lie no 3. : Going back to sleep, too tired. Ask me to sleep, But went to friends house
Explain : He is sorry, he lied
Lie no 4. : Will come to me house and stay overnight, but actually went to friends house to play Mahjong
Explain : He is sorry he lied, coz he don't want me to get angry if he told me he went to his friends house
Lie no 5. : Miss me so much, but didn't come and see me tonight, go to friends house and play
Explain : He really miss me a lot, but since its so late already, might as well come early the next morning to see me
Lie no 6. : Told me 5 times he is sleeping
Explain : Its a lie
Lie no 7. : Scared i ll be mad, could be excepteable, but pls dont tell me that you really mis me that much next time, if ur going to friends house to play mah jong
Explain : Really miss me very much,
Lie no 8. : Said I m oversea, so he got nothing to do sometimes, play games lo..
Explain : What to do...nothing to do at home, no tv
Lie no 9. :Im actually a Priority No 2. compare to friends, haven't seen him for nearly 1 month, althought seen him like 3 times for tis month.
Explain : I am always his Priority No 1. Im his motivator, no one can compare. But he went to his friends house most of the time, because they are lke his brothers as he doesn't have anyone to talk to. He said he need my love to support him. And his friends's advise and help him with his work and family problem, coz sometimes I can't understand his work. He doesn't want to talk to me about it, coz i always think its not really that hard, and it can be solve. But he came to me for emotion support.
I said:
1. I don't care if you didn't support me in financial, but at least support me when I needed you.
But you went to P and said already arrange earlier, can't reject, *ok, i accept due to their work schedule*
2. I don't need a husband like you, why is your title is Mr Late? as in expected.. If my son need you to fetch, but daddy is late. I will be sad. Or if my son need his dad to attend his birthday party, because of some appointments with friends, you can't come, i don't want you to dissapoint my child.
3. i don't want to be in the status of being "ba" or yeah, he is like that. Why do I need to experience jsut like what your family is going through with you, they are Ba.. with your attitude. I really pity them, but sorry I don't want to be "ba" with my husband. Statement , Mr XXX is a great guy. Not Mr XXX is late as usual.
4. I don't mind about your financial state right now, but at least pls organized yourself more..If you are looking for someone that can help you to support your family, I am not the one.. I have my family to support too.
5. If you are looking for some one that doesn't mind you going out all the time, PLS go and look for a clubbing girl, not me. EvenI got married to you, if these things happen, I wont' accept it at all, I will run away from you forever.
6. I am not suitable for you, Im not the right kind of girl for you. And to be honest, you are not the right husband for me too.
7. If you are really in a stress situation, I have told him to take it step by step, and no one can achieve the mountain in a day.
8. Very dissapointed, no feeling
9. The house haven't repair yet, why..... He said he will move soon. Just need some time
Conclusion:
Give him time till March 2007 to clear his debts and settle his house problem. If these things not solve, means he didn't organize his things properly, and still keep on being like that. It will be over for us. I hope god will show me his way...